So.. I finally turned 21. Woohoo! Officially a legal adult! *pops confetti* Although it’s cool and all that I’m considered an adult already….. I’m soooo not ready to be an adult yet. Can I just be a kid forever?!?!?! *insert crying emoji here*
Since I have lived a total of 21 years, I felt like sharing a few things that I have learned throughout my years of life. Some may be relatable or not – well we all go through different shit in life. These are just a few of the things that I think that everyone.. SHOULD learn or at least… know about it if you haven’t turned 21 yet. If you have, hopefully, you have learned these 13 things.
Make more effort to talk to people
One thing’s for sure is that I realize if we make effort to talk or approach people, not only does it strengthen the relationship but you also get to know the person even more. Don’t be afraid to make the first move by striking up a conversation with your friends or strangers, even your relatives.
It’s okay to not be okay
If you’re not doing so well, don’t think that you are not allowed to feel this way. Don’t ever think that you have to be okay all the time. Allow yourself to have bad days because there will always be good days ahead. Just have your bad days, and pick yourself up the next day.
Accept what is meant to be and move on
The boy you loved so much hurt you? The girl you thought was The One turns out not to be? Didn’t managed to get that job? Stop clinging on to something or someone that isn’t meant to be in your life. Learn to let go, and move on. Don’t dwell on the past, focus on your future and see what it’ll bring you. I know it isn’t easy, but for the sake of your happiness, and everyone else.. you have to. Not everything or everyone is meant to stay or be in your life.
One thing that I am always guilty of is blaming myself for everything. Please, learn to forgive yourself for the mistakes you did or did not do. Everybody makes mistakes, as long as you learn from them that’s all that matters.
Why do you need to cause unnecessary stress in your life by not forgiving others for their mistakes? It may not be even their mistake, but don’t shut them off completely. Forgive them, and forget. Trust me, you will feel much better when you do. It feels so much better to put all the drama behind you than holding on to revenge.
Don’t let fear conquer you
If you want to try something, GO AHEAD AND JUST DO IT. Don’t think about the what ifs – JUST DO IT! Don’t let fear overcome you and the things that you want to do. You wanna travel to freaking Africa?! Buy a plane ticket right now! Do whatever the heck you wanna do, as long as it makes you happy.
You are a precious little creature. One thing that I have learned is that it is SO important to have self-love. Pamper yourself, do whatever. Love yourself because each and every one of you are worth it, you are a goddamn piece of 1000k carat diamond ok – boy or girl.
It’s okay to not have things figured out yet
Really, it is OKAY. There is NO rush to plan your future right away, it takes time to get to where you are and where you want to be. It is FINE if you don’t know your future plans or what you want to do in your life. Baby steps, just go with the flow. You’ll be fine. Life is all about trial and error anyway 🙂
Believe in yourself It is so important to believe in yourself because if you don’t, then who will? Other people can believe in you, but if you don’t then there is no point. In the end, the decisions you have to make will always come back to you. Everything is your choice, so believe in your capabilities. Confidence is the key to everything. Even if you don’t have confidence, fake it. Act like you do because confidence is what creates a great impact on everyone, even yourself.
Always be kind
Always, always, always be kind to others. You’ll never know if your simple actions will make that person’s day. When you’re kind to others, in return you will feel good as well.
Surround yourself with positivity
Don’t be around people that constantly puts you down, say mean things and make you feel guilty all the time. If that person is always making you upset or hurting you, let them go. Be with people that are constantly lifting you up. You don’t need unnecessary toxic people in your life. There’s just no time for that shit.
Life is short
You may have lost someone that you love or someone you know. As each day passes by, you don’t know when will anyone’s deathbed be, even your own. Appreciate every living moment and every single person you know because you’ll never know when will be the last time on Earth. You only live once after all.
Choose happiness. You are in charge of how you feel every day. Even if there are days when you don’t choose happiness, choose it the next day anyway. You are in charge of how you feel every day. It isn’t easy, but it is possible. You can do it.
There’s more, I think… but I don’t want to write too long. Some points might be even the same or related.
Welp, here’s to many more years of… adulthood.
If any of you have anything else that you’ve learned, do share your thoughts! 🙂
Instagram is one of the best social media platforms for people to find motivation and pursue their fitness goals or lifestyle.
There are countless female fitness accounts all over Instagram. Aside from the fitness communities in other countries such as the United States or United Kingdom, in Malaysia there is also a fitness community that is getting larger day by day!
These women all aim to promote a healthy lifestyle as well as to encourage women (and men!) to be fit and healthy.
Not only are there new work outs to try out but their posts also encourage you to achieve your fitness goals in terms of nutrition and physique wise!
Below is a list of female fitness accounts that I personally follow (you should too!) for motivation & inspiration:
(Note: The accounts are not in order, it is numbered randomly.)
Maggie started her bodybuilding journey in 2015 and has participated in various bodybuilding competitions. Despite having hyperthyroidism, that does not stop her from being the best she can be! Her Instagram consists of workout exercises, her gorgeous body and her very own healthy meals.
She is not only a fitness model but also a personal trainer as well as one of the top 15 Fitness Influencers! She enjoys hiking during her free time as it can be seen from her Instastory updates. Aside from that she also posts her gorgeous pictures from her photoshoots (she is a model after all!) and workout videos.
It is no surprise to any Malaysian that Nana is one of the top fitness model & motivator. She is also an athlete for PharmaFreak, BeFitMalaysia, Under Armour MY and Australian Strength Performance. On top of that, she is also a Fitness TV Host! She loves rock climbing during her free time. Her job is to motivate and inspire people to live a healthy and active lifestyle, which can be seen through her Instagram.
Who has not heard of this cute Fitness Youtuber!? Her youtube account has close to 1 million subscribers! Aside from her youtube, she also posts her nutrition and workout tips on Instagram as well. You will definitely fall in love with her in general as well as implementing her helpful fitness tips into your lifestyle.
She is not only a certified personal trainer but she was also a national athlete for rowing! Her parents were both active in sports, which inspired her especially her father who was a national rugby player. Her Instagram also consists of workout videos, her sculpted body and various other posts.
Representing all the vegans out there, she is not only a vegan but also a powerlifter! YES, you don’t need meat to get them gainz! She shares tips on being a vegan in Malaysia, and she does a good job at it too! So for those of you who are vegan (or want to be a vegan), her Instagram (and youtube) consists of various vegan meals to eat and locations of restaurants that has vegan food. Besides that, she also posts her workout videos (here’s proof right there that you can lift heavy even without meat!).
Previously a WFF Asia Pro Ms Bikini U24 Champion, she is also a Freelance model and Fitness Enthusiast! Her Instagram consists of workout videos as well as her bikini model worthy pictures which will definitely motivate you to be as fit as her!
Honestly, I’ve been wanting to join a gym and start living a healthy active lifestyle since 2014 but never gotten a chance to until 2016. The reason? I am VERY shy to enter a gym with full of guys and surrounded by a bunch of people (tbh I still am shy sometimes). I felt like I could get judged all the time.. Once again, fear was what stopped me from doing things that I want to do. In terms of food wise, naturally the motivation isn’t there if there isn’t something that helps you along with it.
In my high school days I diddo some workouts at home, just some arms and abs workout aside from jogging. I was skinny. Back then it was all baby gains (which I was somehow happy about LOL)… BUT from Form 3 onwards I pretty much ate McDonalds almost every week after tuition (and then I was no longer skinny but skinny FAT). Holy crap you should see my tummy. Everyday bloated as hell I looked like I had a beer belly (well ok it wasnt THAT bad but in my eyes it was). I wanted to loose fat.. well no surprise there since everybody that starts off usually just wanna lose weight and fats.
FAST FORWARD TO 2016 when I FINALLY decided to join a gym thanks to my boyfie (actually all the guys I’ve dated works out like what’s with me and dating guys that are into building muscles and shit?). WHERE DID I EVEN GET THE GUTS TO DO IT?!?!? I don’t even know. I really hate being in a place full of people (gosh, introvert problems halp) BUT I PULLED THROUGH! And good thing I did because from that day onwards, my lifestyle changed to basically cutting all the sodas, junk food and so on.. especially all the binge eating McDonalds. I still do eat and drink all those stuff here and there but compared to last time, it’s just not as often as before. Definitely there was a HUGE change to my body.. and I was in love with the progress.
The moment I saw my waist from 26inches to 24inches.. *jumps up and down* And when my stomach fat decreased… yup. Although back then when I first started going to the gym and eating healthy it felt like it was just a phase… but now it became more of a lifestyle. You automatically just start to make healthier choices (but of course with some cheats here and there because hello? food is love? food is life?) and your body automatically needs the gym. Not to mention when you’re just so done with life so you release all the bottled up feelings when working out 🙂
….and that’s basically why and how I started.
Going to the gym when there’s a shitload of people (especially guys) still feels very intimidating to me until now, but I try to push that aside and just work out… in a corner. I LIKE MY CORNERS OKAY! AWAYYYY from everyone.. hehehe 😀