Well, it’s been awhile. My last post was on January 1st.
It’s already February now! Time flies…
One of the reasons why I haven’t been blogging (or following my so-called blogging schedule) is because my mind wasn’t in a good state – negative thoughts and all that.
It’s important to take care of yourself first – your mental health. So that’s what I did (you should too!).
I’ll be starting a series called #WellnessWednesdays where I blog about wellness in general on Wednesdays (if I manage to follow….) so expect some wellness posts on upcoming Wednesdays! 🙂
Moving on – this blog post is inspired by a Korean short film. I recently watched this short Korean drama series (and it made me cried buckets of tears) – KBS Drama Specials – usually 1 hour+ short films. You can watch it here. It made me realize how there are other people wishing they could live longer and here we are sometimes wishing our life is shorter.
For those of you that need little reminders here, this post is to remind you to not give up and just keep going.
Here are 4 things to remind yourself when life is tough:
You are considered lucky. In the short film, the main character was wondering why was her life cut short. She wanted to live longer. She was so desperate to live more.
You were given birth by your very own mother who went through so much of pain just to deliver you.
You still have a beating heart. You still have a living soul.
These little things are what counts – you are so blessed already to be able to live and breath like a normal person would.
Being alive is a very lucky thing. Embrace it – even when life gets in the way.
Pain is temporary. The pain you are feeling right now, all the hardships, breakups and struggles – it’s only temporary.
It will pass.
No pain lasts forever unless you choose to let it consume you. Don’t let it take over your life – be the change. You can have a good life – if you allow yourself to.
Be kind to yourself, let happiness into your life. Free yourself from all the negativity and the ones that cause you pain or problems.
Be good to yourself because you deserve it.
You are loved. Take a step back and take a look at the people around you.
I know – it sounds so cheesy and cringy. But it’s true. You are loved.
You never know – you might be someone else’s happiness. You might be the reason they wake up every day. You can even put a smile on their face daily.
People are happy to have you. You might not know it – but there are those that are happy to have you in their lives. They enjoy your company, they love being around you. They love talking to you.
It can’t be stormy and rainy forever. Maybe you have been constantly been let down, so many disappointments, failures and so on. Maybe you feel that you aren’t good enough for your family, girlfriend, boyfriend, wife, husband, friend.. or in general.
Maybe you are struggling to put food on the table, to make ends meet… to build yourself a good career… to make your loved ones proud.. to be good at a job you’re currently struggling with…
Don’t think that just because your life sucks right now that it’ll suck forever.It will get better.
Just hang in there for a while longer – and don’t give up. Just keep pushing yourself – and I promise that you will see rays of sunshine and rainbows at the end.
Just like the weather, rain and storms come and go.
Just like the struggles and hardships, they will come and go as well.
So.. I finally turned 21. Woohoo! Officially a legal adult! *pops confetti* Although it’s cool and all that I’m considered an adult already….. I’m soooo not ready to be an adult yet. Can I just be a kid forever?!?!?! *insert crying emoji here*
Since I have lived a total of 21 years, I felt like sharing a few things that I have learned throughout my years of life. Some may be relatable or not – well we all go through different shit in life. These are just a few of the things that I think that everyone.. SHOULD learn or at least… know about it if you haven’t turned 21 yet. If you have, hopefully, you have learned these 13 things.
Make more effort to talk to people
One thing’s for sure is that I realize if we make effort to talk or approach people, not only does it strengthen the relationship but you also get to know the person even more. Don’t be afraid to make the first move by striking up a conversation with your friends or strangers, even your relatives.
It’s okay to not be okay
If you’re not doing so well, don’t think that you are not allowed to feel this way. Don’t ever think that you have to be okay all the time. Allow yourself to have bad days because there will always be good days ahead. Just have your bad days, and pick yourself up the next day.
Accept what is meant to be and move on
The boy you loved so much hurt you? The girl you thought was The One turns out not to be? Didn’t managed to get that job? Stop clinging on to something or someone that isn’t meant to be in your life. Learn to let go, and move on. Don’t dwell on the past, focus on your future and see what it’ll bring you. I know it isn’t easy, but for the sake of your happiness, and everyone else.. you have to. Not everything or everyone is meant to stay or be in your life.
One thing that I am always guilty of is blaming myself for everything. Please, learn to forgive yourself for the mistakes you did or did not do. Everybody makes mistakes, as long as you learn from them that’s all that matters.
Why do you need to cause unnecessary stress in your life by not forgiving others for their mistakes? It may not be even their mistake, but don’t shut them off completely. Forgive them, and forget. Trust me, you will feel much better when you do. It feels so much better to put all the drama behind you than holding on to revenge.
Don’t let fear conquer you
If you want to try something, GO AHEAD AND JUST DO IT. Don’t think about the what ifs – JUST DO IT! Don’t let fear overcome you and the things that you want to do. You wanna travel to freaking Africa?! Buy a plane ticket right now! Do whatever the heck you wanna do, as long as it makes you happy.
You are a precious little creature. One thing that I have learned is that it is SO important to have self-love. Pamper yourself, do whatever. Love yourself because each and every one of you are worth it, you are a goddamn piece of 1000k carat diamond ok – boy or girl.
It’s okay to not have things figured out yet
Really, it is OKAY. There is NO rush to plan your future right away, it takes time to get to where you are and where you want to be. It is FINE if you don’t know your future plans or what you want to do in your life. Baby steps, just go with the flow. You’ll be fine. Life is all about trial and error anyway 🙂
Believe in yourself It is so important to believe in yourself because if you don’t, then who will? Other people can believe in you, but if you don’t then there is no point. In the end, the decisions you have to make will always come back to you. Everything is your choice, so believe in your capabilities. Confidence is the key to everything. Even if you don’t have confidence, fake it. Act like you do because confidence is what creates a great impact on everyone, even yourself.
Always be kind
Always, always, always be kind to others. You’ll never know if your simple actions will make that person’s day. When you’re kind to others, in return you will feel good as well.
Surround yourself with positivity
Don’t be around people that constantly puts you down, say mean things and make you feel guilty all the time. If that person is always making you upset or hurting you, let them go. Be with people that are constantly lifting you up. You don’t need unnecessary toxic people in your life. There’s just no time for that shit.
Life is short
You may have lost someone that you love or someone you know. As each day passes by, you don’t know when will anyone’s deathbed be, even your own. Appreciate every living moment and every single person you know because you’ll never know when will be the last time on Earth. You only live once after all.
Choose happiness. You are in charge of how you feel every day. Even if there are days when you don’t choose happiness, choose it the next day anyway. You are in charge of how you feel every day. It isn’t easy, but it is possible. You can do it.
There’s more, I think… but I don’t want to write too long. Some points might be even the same or related.
Welp, here’s to many more years of… adulthood.
If any of you have anything else that you’ve learned, do share your thoughts! 🙂
Honestly, I’ve been wanting to join a gym and start living a healthy active lifestyle since 2014 but never gotten a chance to until 2016. The reason? I am VERY shy to enter a gym with full of guys and surrounded by a bunch of people (tbh I still am shy sometimes). I felt like I could get judged all the time.. Once again, fear was what stopped me from doing things that I want to do. In terms of food wise, naturally the motivation isn’t there if there isn’t something that helps you along with it.
In my high school days I diddo some workouts at home, just some arms and abs workout aside from jogging. I was skinny. Back then it was all baby gains (which I was somehow happy about LOL)… BUT from Form 3 onwards I pretty much ate McDonalds almost every week after tuition (and then I was no longer skinny but skinny FAT). Holy crap you should see my tummy. Everyday bloated as hell I looked like I had a beer belly (well ok it wasnt THAT bad but in my eyes it was). I wanted to loose fat.. well no surprise there since everybody that starts off usually just wanna lose weight and fats.
FAST FORWARD TO 2016 when I FINALLY decided to join a gym thanks to my boyfie (actually all the guys I’ve dated works out like what’s with me and dating guys that are into building muscles and shit?). WHERE DID I EVEN GET THE GUTS TO DO IT?!?!? I don’t even know. I really hate being in a place full of people (gosh, introvert problems halp) BUT I PULLED THROUGH! And good thing I did because from that day onwards, my lifestyle changed to basically cutting all the sodas, junk food and so on.. especially all the binge eating McDonalds. I still do eat and drink all those stuff here and there but compared to last time, it’s just not as often as before. Definitely there was a HUGE change to my body.. and I was in love with the progress.
The moment I saw my waist from 26inches to 24inches.. *jumps up and down* And when my stomach fat decreased… yup. Although back then when I first started going to the gym and eating healthy it felt like it was just a phase… but now it became more of a lifestyle. You automatically just start to make healthier choices (but of course with some cheats here and there because hello? food is love? food is life?) and your body automatically needs the gym. Not to mention when you’re just so done with life so you release all the bottled up feelings when working out 🙂
….and that’s basically why and how I started.
Going to the gym when there’s a shitload of people (especially guys) still feels very intimidating to me until now, but I try to push that aside and just work out… in a corner. I LIKE MY CORNERS OKAY! AWAYYYY from everyone.. hehehe 😀