4 Things To Remember When Life Gets Hard

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Well, it’s been awhile. My last post was on January 1st.

It’s already February now! Time flies…

One of the reasons why I haven’t been blogging (or following my so-called blogging schedule) is because my mind wasn’t in a good state – negative thoughts and all that.

It’s important to take care of yourself first – your mental health. So that’s what I did (you should too!).

I’ll be starting a series called #WellnessWednesdays where I blog about wellness in general on Wednesdays (if I manage to follow….) so expect some wellness posts on upcoming Wednesdays! 🙂

Moving on – this blog post is inspired by a Korean short film. I recently watched this short Korean drama series (and it made me cried buckets of tears) – KBS Drama Specials – usually 1 hour+ short films. You can watch it here. It made me realize how there are other people wishing they could live longer and here we are sometimes wishing our life is shorter.

For those of you that need little reminders here, this post is to remind you to not give up and just keep going.

Here are 4 things to remind yourself when life is tough:

  1. You are considered lucky.
    In the short film, the main character was wondering why was her life cut short. She wanted to live longer. She was so desperate to live more.

    You were given birth by your very own mother who went through so much of pain just to deliver you.

    You still have a beating heart. You still have a living soul.

    These little things are what counts – you are so blessed already to be able to live and breath like a normal person would.

    Being alive is a very lucky thing. Embrace it – even when life gets in the way.

  2. Pain is temporary.
    The pain you are feeling right now, all the hardships, breakups and struggles – it’s only temporary.

    It will pass.

    No pain lasts forever unless you choose to let it consume you. Don’t let it take over your life – be the change. You can have a good life – if you allow yourself to.

    Be kind to yourself, let happiness into your life. Free yourself from all the negativity and the ones that cause you pain or problems.

    Be good to yourself because you deserve it.

  3. You are loved.
    Take a step back and take a look at the people around you.

    I know – it sounds so cheesy and cringy. But it’s true. You are loved.

    You never know – you might be someone else’s happiness. You might be the reason they wake up every day. You can even put a smile on their face daily.

    People are happy to have you. You might not know it – but there are those that are happy to have you in their lives. They enjoy your company, they love being around you. They love talking to you.

    Remember them.

  4. It can’t be stormy and rainy forever.
    Maybe you have been constantly been let down, so many disappointments, failures and so on. Maybe you feel that you aren’t good enough for your family, girlfriend, boyfriend, wife, husband, friend.. or in general.

    Maybe you are struggling to put food on the table, to make ends meet… to build yourself a good career… to make your loved ones proud.. to be good at a job you’re currently struggling with…

    Don’t think that just because your life sucks right now that it’ll suck forever.It will get better.

    I promise.

    Just hang in there for a while longer – and don’t give up. Just keep pushing yourself – and I promise that you will see rays of sunshine and rainbows at the end.

    Just like the weather, rain and storms come and go.
    Just like the struggles and hardships, they will come and go as well.

I hope all of you have a good month ahead!

Stay positive always.

x chelle

What is a healthy mind?

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This is just something random that has been lingering in my mind for awhile. The struggle to stay positive, to be happy and have a healthy mind even when life knocks you down. I guess because I came to realize that this is a daily struggle for not only myself but many people as well.

What really is a healthy mind? 

There was a period of time when my mind was not healthy at all. In short, I was not happy. Smiling and laughing took a lot of effort, it all felt fake. For a few years, everyday felt like a struggle to even wake up every morning. It was like I was physically there, but I’m not really there. It took me sometime to get out of that ‘comfort zone’ that I was in. It was a comfort zone to me at that time because I choose to stay in that zone. I keep going back to it, no matter what.

Some of you may or may not have these kind of thoughts before. What am I living for? Is there a reason to live, what IS my reason to live? No one really cares. Why am I not smart enough, or good enough? I’m not capable of doing this and that. I’m below average, or just average. I won’t be able to cope or handle with this and that.

A healthy mind is when you don’t have all these thoughts.

I think we all tend to look down on ourselves at times and compare ourselves with others. We view ourselves as something so small and we lack confidence in ourselves. I believe that everyone has those moments. Sometimes it just comes unexpectedly, especially when something bad happens that impacts you greatly. Maybe it’s the way you were brought up, the environment that you were in that sometimes cause you to feel or think these thoughts. Or it could be because of some bad events that happened before.

One thing’s for sure though, is that everyone has their own purpose in life, and it’s all in your hands. YOU get to choose what you want to live for. YOU have the choice to create your own path in life. Everybody has their own choice on how you want to live your life. Choose the ones that makes you happy, the ones that helps you to become a better person and cause a positive impact in your life.

On a side note, having positive people by your side also influences your life choices and decisions. If you surround yourself with people that help lift you up, you will one day manage to lift yourself up as well.

I used to think that I can’t control what I’m feeling. That it just comes and goes. To an extent, this is true. But you can definitely choose how do you respond to these feelings or thoughts. When it comes, you can choose to either respond negatively… or seek for help from others. It is all about mindset and your willingness to change or control it.

There will be good and bad times in life, but one day eventually you will learn to see the positive sides of even the bad ones. You will be able to believe in yourself and start seeing yourself as a valuable person. You are definitely not alone in this world. I can guarantee you have AT LEAST 1 person (definitely more than 1 though) that cares about you. Sure there will be times when you fall down, so get yo ass back up just like the saying ‘Fall 7 times, get up 8’.

Your life is like a book. There are a few chapters, some chapters are bad and good. One chapter does not define the whole book.

Be the author of your own book.

x chelle